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It would be lovely if we could gather memories and thoughts about about Rob for the Quins and Christophers. Please go to ‘Memories of Rob’ or CLICK HERE to leave your message. 

Here are two songs from Charity. The first is a moving song Chats wrote during Rob’s illness, and the second is one she wants you to hear now that Rob has passed on to be with the Lord.

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Thursday 12th September

Rob’s funeral will be on Thursday 26th September at 11am, at St Michael’s Church, Church Street, Framlingham, Suffolk, IP13 9BH, and afterwards at the Scout Hut, Badingham Road, Framlingham. Thank you all for your kind comments and continued prayers.

Monday 9th September 2013

Dear all,
Yesterday, Robert James Quin – husband, father, grandfather and father-in-law, passed away gently, peacefully and beautifully with Charity, Jesse, Amber, Jules and Eddy beside him.
It was a beautiful and peaceful day with some lovely visits from friends and family. Jesse and Eddy spent the previous night with him and sat with him in the wee hours while he grunted his approval at stories of him blowing up trees with gunpowder, being chased by police, and generally living life to the fullest degree. After that he slipped into a deep sleep.
The following morning Mum, me and Jules arrived and we spent a blessed and amazing day with him as he slept. We prayed for him, cried around him, laughed around him and felt great peace. I think we sometimes feared during his illness that he might end up just skin and bones, just a husk, but in the last few days he actually  looked more like his old self than he had in a long time. His arms fattened up, his colour was lovely. He looked like our Dad again. Miraculously he had stopped taking any medication. The doctors and nurses were astonished that he wasn’t in absolute agony. We felt God was really looking after every detail. It was just amazing.
At the end of the afternoon Mum’s brother John, who is an AMAZING vicar and man of God, came with his lovely family and prayed for Dad and anointed him with oil. After he left we all sat and Mum sang as Dad’s breathing got gentler and gentler. He took his last breath as Mum finished singing her song ‘I set sail.’  He went with pure peace and dignity with his family holding him. His left hand was curled around his beautiful hand made cross from the Holy land, resting on his heart.
It’s all still a bit of haze but we are loving each other through the tears and pain. God is continuing to pick us up and bring us peace when we feel it is all too much to bear. We are just so thankful for how the last few weeks have been at the hospice. To us, in many ways, it has been like a kind of family holiday. The blessed hot weather, togetherness in the beautiful garden with Harper feeding the fish(!), being cooked for, all together, all loving each other. Just so so precious. The nurses and doctors there are incredible and inspirational.
We will miss Dad more than words can convey. He was a strong, loving, honest, supportive, incredible man and our family will never be the same. But as this chapter ends, another begins. We know that God has plans for us all, plans for us to prosper and although hard to imagine right now, we hold tightly to our Heavenly Father who sustains us and keeps us going through everything that makes up the great tapestry of life.
Thank you so much for all your prayers. We’ve never felt so loved and supported. What a journey this has been.
God is good, God loves us and God is looking after us. The Lord gave, the Lord has taken away, blessed be the name of the Lord.
Lots and lots of love,
The Quins/Christophers.

 

Sunday 8th September (Charity)
Rob has come to the end of the road medically; there’s nothing more they can do for him. Thank you God that he is not in pain, despite not taking pain killers. Thank you god for your peace. Please God may his kidneys work. Please pray for vital signs and breathing.
Stand with us as a family in our continued belief, that what I believe God said originally has not changed and God will heal him.
2 Corinthians 5;7 “For we live by faith, not by sight”
God is sovereign.
Please pray for more of his Holy Spirit for everyone. We love and appreciate all your praying.
Psalm 40;3 “Many will see and many will fear the Lord and put their trust in Him”

 

Friday 6th September 



Thank you God that Dad had no pain today. At all. I don’t know who was praying as the blog update didn’t go up in time for the morning…So so so good to have him relaxed and happy.

Dad has an infection. They think that it is a urine infection. He slept all day, ALL day. I couldn’t wake him up but when I stroked his hair and spoke to him quietly, his breathing slightly changed so I wonder if he could hear me.
He is on a drip to flush out his system and make sure he has enough fluids. They have also given him another course of anti-biotics to try to fight the infection. They said that they want to see how he goes over the weekend and if he is feeling better, they will change the cathata which will then eradicate all the infection as it will also be on the plastic tubing. The doctor said that if he was not better that they would leave it as it may be too much if he is very poorly.

Mum and I left at about 20:45/21:00 and Jesse stayed.
Eddy went in on his way back from London late to go and pray for the big man.
Dad was so fast asleep, he wasn’t able to take his regular medication, nor did he eat today. He managed to drink a couple of cups of water and pineapple juice. It’s really taken it out of him this nasty infection.
We just spoke to the boys and Dad apparently woke up and drank something. They are having a nice time together. I don’t know whether he is still awake. Jesse actually said that last night was worse, that Dads breathing was really loud and unsettled and that he is better.
Pray that he really kicks the infection in the butt and feels and looks better tomorrow.
Pray that the pain does not return and that he doesn’t need all those yukky drugs.
Pray that the infection clears completely and that they are able to change the cathata.
Pray with thanks for every baby milestone reached
Pray with thanks for a day of no pain – SUCH a blessing
Bed time!
Peace and Love
Amber xxx




Thursday 5th September (Amber)

 
I arrived at the hospice at 07.45 this morning, Dad was behind the curtain cracking jokes to the nurses being very funny. Being very Dad.
He was on seriously good form, a liiiiittle bit like someone who had just smoked a spliff. He was very jolly and relaxed.
I said to him, ‘Errm Dad, I’m slightly concerned that you’re taking that opioid drug because you like it rather than you need it.’ He replied ‘What’s wrong with that?’ with a very cheeky look on his face! shocker!
At about 08:45 he went from cool as a cucumber to writhing in pain, When I say pain, I mean AGONY. It was just horrible. It took a good two hours for the drugs and then top up drugs to kick in and by kick in, I mean take away the pain but also pretty much knock him out. But after watching it from start to finish, I can tell you, it’s a breath of fresh air seeing him konked out after being so unbearably sore.
Mum and I were talking to the nurse trying to get her to make sure he has the correct medication so that he doesn’t have to wait until he’s in that state and then be treated for it. There’s no need for it to get like that. It is horrendous for Dad and very upsetting to watch.
He slept through a the rest of the morning and into the afternoon with funny loud snores.
Mum then came and I went home for a bit.
At 17:30 ish I went back to the hospice to find Dad awake and sitting up in bed. They gave him a drip to get more fluids in him after being asleep for so much of the hot day and not drinking too much.
I gave him an energy drink when I came in which he glugged.
The doctor said to Mum tonight, that the thing about Dad is that he just is not predictable. They can’t understand him. He improves when he’s ‘not supposed to.’ ;-)
It was such an amazing day and evening for weather. We rolled Dad out for his supper and he sat up in bed, along with most of the other residents and visitors and had his food.
Dear David, who has been in the bed oppersite Dad for the whole of his stay is leaving tomorrow. We are all so sad to see him go. It feels like the end of an era. Time has just blurred since Dad has been in the hospice. It has been such an amazing place to be. We love the building, the staff, making tea and sitting in the garden and that’s not even going into the amazing care.
Dave is part of the furniture. He has been a real friend, support, comfort and all round trooper, as has his wife Jenny. It just won’t be the same without him.
We are praying that who over comes in his place would be a good’un.
It’s just Dad and a man called Steve for the time being. Dear Geoffrey died a couple of days ago in a really beautiful peaceful way. His wife came right out to tell Mum how lovely it was. Dear family. They were amazing.

P R A Y E R S for tomorrow….

> Between specifically at 08:30 – 11:30 pray that Dad does not have the same pain attack as other mornings. That they nail it so he has none at all.
>Pay that the nurses and doctors know how to intercede his illness and care for him accordingly.
> Pray for the ward to have just the right people staying on it to bless and support each other
> Pray against any infection
> Pray that Dad really feels Gods love and strength

Thank you so so much for all your support you lovely people

Huge love to you all
Quin Christopher’s xxxx

 

Wednesday 4th September (Amber)
What a scorcher! Very hot in the ward today. I arrived to see Dad with some visiting friends.
He had been sore again in the morning :-( I haven’t been there in the mornings so I don’t know how bad is bad. But it’s not nice seeing him uncomfortable that’s for sure.
He had top up pain relief again which aided the vicious cycle of then being really doped out. Something they are reviewing again. Poor little guinea pig.
We ‘wheeled him out’ onto the lawn, Ed and I hung out with him for the afternoon and he woke right up. Its so nice sitting by the water and feeling the cool air. Being outside has always made Dad so happy and it continues to do so. He was being quite cheeky. Ed was feeding him toasted English muffin with jam on it and I kept saying to him, ‘Dad, you can’t fall asleep when you have a mouthful of food, you’ll choke!’ so he’d open his eyes and finish the mouthful. We did have a moment where he started trying to cough like he was about to get it stuck in his throat (panic!) he swallowed his mouthful then looked at us and said ‘shhh!’ haha.
He was so much more awake and was eating lots of food. He sure perks up when he wants something…ice cream, a bath, a guiness!
I prayed silently over Dad earlier, ‘God if it’s your will to heal Dad, I ask that you would let him know and that he would really start to feel it.’ He suddenly said ‘Yes.’ and woke right up! It’s not over till the fat lady sings people!
I read psalm 3…’Many are saying of me,
“God will not deliver him.

But you, Lord, are a shield around me,
my glory, the One who lifts my head high.
I call out to the Lord,
and he answers me from his holy mountain.

I lie down and sleep;
I wake again, because the Lord sustains me.’

I am going to be with him first thing tomorrow morning so I will be able to see him get going and have breakfast with him.
If anyone isn’t able to come and visit but would like to, leave a message on here and we will read it to him.
With Love from St Elizabeth Hospice HQ
Rob, Chats, Amber, Ed, Jesse, Jules, Harper and the 2 bumps! xxx


Tuesday 3rd September (Amber)

Dad is just so much better in himself Thank you God.

He had a good day today. He ate well, including lots of birthday picnic food.

He also snoozed muchly. His drugs are currently being reviewed so that the nerve pain isn’t a problem but that he isn’t so dozey.

A lovely nurse who had been away for 10 days came in and said, ‘Oh, you look so much better Rob’. It was such a lovely sentence for him to hear.
It’s just so lovely leaving at the end of the day with Dad being happy. He’s amazing.
Q/C’s xxx
 

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Bible text for the day

‘Which is easier: to say, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up and walk’? But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins . . .” Then he said to the paralytic, “Get up, take your mat and go home.” And the man got up and went home.’ Matthew 9:5-7

Praise the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits– who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, …  Psalm 103:2-4

The LORD will protect him and preserve his life; he will bless him in the land and not surrender him to the desire of his foes.  The LORD will sustain him on his sickbed and restore him from his bed of illness. Psalm 41:2-3

And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
 Mark 11:22-24 (CEV)

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday. A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you. You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked. If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,” and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent. For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent. “Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
 I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call on me, and I will answer him;
    I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.” Psalm 91

Praise the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits– who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, Psalm 103:2-4

And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. James 5:15a

‘But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed.’ Isaiah 53:5

Heal the sick who are there and tell them, ‘The kingdom of God has come near to you.’ Luke 10:9 NIV

‘Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. ‘ Philippians 4:6-7 (The Message)

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, for ever and ever.

Quote for the Day

‘Can you even imagine what God has ahead if we continue to pray, dream, hope and expect big. Ignore the naysayers, BELIEVE GOD.’ Christine Caine

“Jesus was never worried or perplexed. He was calmly and completely in control of every situation. He never doubted that His Father’s goodness would provide everything He needed. And the Father never failed Him.” 
Derek Prince

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” 
Thomas A Edison.  So, please don’t give up praying!

‘God is as willing to heal believers as He is to forgive unbelievers. Know this, if He was merciful enough to forgive you when you were unconverted, He is merciful enough to heal you now that you are in His family!’  T. L. Osborn

‘If I believe that sickness is to the body what sin is to the soul, then no disease will intimidate me. It is inconsistent to have Jesus pay a price for healing and for us to believe it is not God’s intention to heal.’ Bill Johnson

‘Fear imprisons, faith liberates; fear paralyzes, faith empowers; fear disheartens, faith encourages; fear sickens, faith heals’ Harry Emerson Fosdick

‘Prayer is not overcoming God’s reluctance, but laying hold of his willingness.’ Martin Luther

‘Begin to declare to the enemy that he can’t win. He is facing impossible odds because the King is here!’ Graham Cooke

‘Pray the largest prayers. You cannot think a prayer so large that God, in answering it, will not wish you had made it larger.’ Phillip Brooks

‘Possible is what we can do. Impossible is Gods’ specialty! Why not believe Him, expect Him & want Him to be who He is in your life.’ Christine Caine

“God is able to accomplish, provide, help, save, keep, subdue … He is able to do what you can’t. He already has a plan. God’s not bewildered. Go to him.”                   Max Lucado

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